Dear parents struggling to bond with baby,
Allow me to give you this gift.
Let go of whatever you imagined it would be like to bond, you were wrong.
A lot of this feeling, this feeling of not being able to bond, is due to reality not matching imagination. Also, you’re tired and hormonal, which leads to emotions that cause you to be easily worried and overly observant in self-sabotaging ways.
Just take the time to get to know this new creature. There’s no reason why you would be bonded until you do that.
The difference between the parent who bonds right away and the parent who doesn’t is the belief that they will bond, without the imagined idea of what that should look like or feel like in advance.
Stay in the present and you will be fine.
When you’re in the present you’ll be able to tell if your baby is pulling away and/or refusing to feed because of a problem (maybe a sensory issue or pain) and then you will seek the correct counsel rather than take it personally.
Please Know: The act of reaching out to help your child is the act of bonding.
If you find yourself with more questions or concerns, please feel comfortable reaching out to me.
Bonding with baby is a gift I would love to help you unwrap.
aka The Brain Broad